The concept of THE EFFICIENT PARENT is very simple.
If we strive to nurture, teach and protect our children in positive ways, then we are striving to be the efficient parent, and we are fulfilling our role as parents.
More than anything, it’s the quality of our parenting that determines the quality of a child’s future. Exposing our kids to different fun experiences reinforces what they learn in their church and school classrooms, and helps them make those educational and spiritual connections on a deeper level. Nurturing our children with the unconditional love that God shows us shapes their hearts and creates their kind spirits.
Protecting them from the dangers of the world…whether it’s the dangers of world “out there” or the daily dangers that pop up inside our own little world…makes them feel safe and secure in their home.
It’s our job as parents to prepare our kids for what lies ahead.
My personal indicator by which I will determine if I’ve been successful at being The Efficient Parent is if my children develop into adults who are living in a way that is pleasing to God. Of course, that means I have to parent them in a way that is pleasing to God. That’s really all that matters.
Time tells all truths.
Parents will always be the most influential factor in shaping our children. Our job as parents is the most important role we’ll ever play. It’s too important to mess it up. Of course, there are certain days when I feel like this blog could arguably be named “The Deficient Parent”. But if we get it right…the efficient parent part….most of the time, then I think our kids will turn out fantastic. Here are just some thoughts about what nurture, teach and protect mean to me.
Nurturing goes a long way and determines if a child will grow up to be an angry person or not. Adults who have anger problems…”the perpetually angry”…were not perpetually nurtured as kids. Kids learn to love by being loved. If a child is nurtured by at least one person consistently, then they will be better equipped to nurture others – and themselves – as well.
Any situation can be used to teach. Exposing them to different situations and experiences truly helps make a deeper educational connection when they are studying particular topics in school. It doesn’t have to be a lot of work to create a teachable moment. Just remembering that our children need guidance and direction can prompt a simple discussion or activity that they’ll benefit from.
Protecting our children is the one area that a child might not be able to rebound from if we don’t do it. If we let our guard down in this one area, then we’re putting our kids at risk. I don’t have to teach and nurture my child every moment of every day, but I do have to ensure their physical safety every moment of every day. Otherwise, our kids are at risk for not just having a ruined day, but a ruined life. If I miss an opportunity to teach them something, then the information can always be learned at another time. If I snap at my son when I’m impatient, I’ve ruined the moment, but I haven’t ruined the future. Kids are resilient like that. But if I fail to protect my children from a physical danger then their futures could be forever altered negatively.
- Main Entry: ef·fi·cient
- Pronunciation: \i-ˈfi-shənt\
- Function: adjective
- Etymology: Middle English, from Middle French or Latin; Middle French, from Latin efficient-, efficiens, from present participle of efficere
- Date: 14th century
1 : being or involving the immediate agent in producing an effect <the efficient action of heat in changing water to steam>
2 : productive of desired effects; especially : productive without waste <an efficient worker>
— ef·fi·cient·ly adverb
So, let’s go forward and parent our kids the NURTURE, TEACH AND PROTECT way!!